38 Things I’ve learned In 38 years

Yall, tomorrow I’m turning 38 and I swear it just seems so unreal to me.  Like I still want to be in my EARLY twenties enjoying life to the ultimate fullest.  Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy life and all that it has to offer, however, I’m “grown, grown”!  At 38,  I’m two years from 40 and 12 years from 50.  Do you know how fast that will go by?  I remember my parents turning 40 and thinking that they were old and now here I am slowly turning the corner.  But it’s all good.  It’s a blessing to see another year and lately I’ve been reflecting on a few things I’ve learned over the years. Continue reading

My Blessing

I could probably guess that many do not know the story of me becoming a mother.  I was a junior in college, away from home, trying to earn my degree, and living a fun careless life.

I was a virgin until I was 19 years old.  Even after I lost my virginity, I wasn’t just running around with every Tom, Dick, or Harry.  I’ve always been a very cautious person so who I gave my body too was always important to me. Continue reading

Itoja turns 1

“Be willing to take a chance

because you never know how perfect

something could turn out”

A year in review:

I must say, this has been an amazing year and the term, “time flies when you’re having fun” is certainly true.  While it has been fun, it has not all been easy! I truly didn’t know how people would react to this blog when I first started.  To be upfront and personal as well as relatable all at the same time isn’t always as easy as it look.  However, it has definitely been worthwhile!

Throughout the year I have received feedback of how much THIS blog has inspired others, how it has motivated some, and how the blog has been a delight to read week by week.  I’ve written over 120 blogs this year; we’ve had a Dos and Don’t monthly segment that was a big hit; we’ve talked about relationships, travels, and so much more.

The focus of this blog has always been to showcase everyday life in a way to inspire and connect with other people.  Basically like an online support group in a more fun and updated way.  In today’s world, people are always out and about and on their phones–you can pull Itoja up on your phone in the back seat of a Uber or on a train or while you’re waiting on your food before dinner.  Where you go–I go!

Here is what I know!  I know that life isn’t always peaches and cream.  I know that life is so much easier when you have someone to talk to or when there is a central place where you can come to read and connect with others who may be going through the same thing as you; good or bad.

I also know that sometimes you just want to know about the latest wine that I’m drinking or what I’m listening to this week or perhaps the latest place I’ve traveled to.  Whatever it is that you need Itoja is your virtual best friend (thanks cuz)!  So as we evolve and grow the mission essentially will still be the same.

Party Festivities:

So on this first birthday of Itoja, I’m going to have a little cake and a little dessert wine–my two favorite things.  This particular wine is called Ruby from AmRheine’s Winery in Bent Mountain, Virginia.  It’s a sweet red wine with a hints of chocolate and raspberry and it’s pairs perfectly with desserts or by itself!

I know you all want to send gifts, lol, but please don’t stress yourself.  Instead, like this post, comment, share, and subscribe to this blog.  If you love what you’re reading and if you need a good girlfriend–Itoja is the place to be!

What’s next?:

Be sure to invite your family and friends to join this big circle of friendship.  I promise to keep the content original, to keep it fun, to keep it inspiring and to be a voice for everyone.  Each of you play a very important role in this blog and each week I love dropping into your inbox or on your social media feed to let you know, I have arrived and I’m ready to connect and catch up, as friends usually do.

There is a high that follows any post that I put out when I receive likes or comments–so please keep them coming, especially if you love what you’re reading!

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I’ll always love you! [RIP CLT JR]

Today’s mood is melancholy.  I cry internally over the lost of my uncle frequently but especially today because it’s his birthday.  Two years ago today, he laid in a hospital bed with little response.  Suffering from pneumonia and lack of oxygen that he would never recover from.  A few weeks later he passed away.  Sometimes, life is just hard.  This is has certainly been a very hard pill to swallow.  It still feels so unreal.  I don’t come with ways to deal with grief, how to move through grief, or even ways to get your mind off of missing a beloved love one.  But I write to say that no matter where I am in life my favorite uncle will forever live in my heart and he shall forever live through me!

Happy Birthday, Unc!