Ladies, Love Yourself

Loving ourselves is something that women, especially, often have a hard time doing.  Of course we all say that we love ourselves, but do our actions truly show that?

How many times have we put a man before our needs or before our children?  How many times have you allowed The D (and you know what I mean) to control you and your emotions?

Women already have to take on more responsibilities than men these days.  We literally carry the world on our shoulders.  It hurts my heart to see women settle for no good men.  When we truly love ourselves we are able to set standards and expectations.  We are able to be strong and independent with or without a man.

Yes, sex is great.  But if all you are getting from a relationship is sex then sis you are settling and I want you to desire more from that relationship.  Remember a man will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.  A real man will make time for you.  A real man will be happy and willing to commit to you.  I’m not saying you have to get married next week but he shouldn’t be leading you on or making you feel like you’re in limbo.

You may ask, well who is this blog post for? It’s for any single (because once you’re married that’s a whole different story) teen or woman, old or young, who may need a reminder that self-love is the best love.  If you don’t love yourself completely then another person won’t be able to love YOU completely either.

I understand it’s not always as easy as it seems.  I get that.  I’ve trotted in these same shoes before.  But trust that there are people out here who are willing to stand by you through difficult times.  There are people who have been in your shoes and understand the emotional soul tie that may be pulling at your hem strings.  You don’t have to settle for half of the pie when you can have the whole cake.  There are good men out here.

You are the captain of your life and a man shouldn’t dictate your happiness.  You are loved and you deserve love!

XOXO,

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