Rumor Has It Destiny’s Child Is Planning A 20th Anniversary Reunion Tour, And We Are Saying Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes — MadameNoire

Help me as I try to control my excitement!

Did you know that I’m a total Beyoncé fan?  I’ve been to three concerts, indoors and outdoors. I’ve traveled for miles, took days off from work, and stood in pouring rain in stadiums just to see Beyoncé perform live. I’ve brought every CD, downloaded and streamed every song. I’ve purchased her Merch and watched everything that she’s ever been in from TV to movies to YouTube videos of her when she was little. I love Beyoncé and I’ve vowed to myself to attend every tour she does from here on out.  That’s just that!

In my mind, Beyoncé and I are friends.  She’s down to Earth, she’s dedicated to her fans and her purpose in life.  She always give more than 100% at everything she does.  She’s pro-black, pro-woman, and she puts on one heck of a show! The girl can truly sing and that’s no lie.

So, as a faithful member of the BeeHive and a long time fan of Destiny’s Child…I’m just sitting here waiting patiently for – if and when – these tour dates drop.  And let’s be fair, I’ve seen Kelly Rowland in concert as well. But only once. So the joy of seeing the trio group come together for a reunion tour has me so excited for 2020. Therefore, I’m saving my coins so that I’ll be ready to purchase tickets WHENEVER that time comes.

If the tour happens, I imagine that each of the ladies would perform a number of their solo songs along with their Destiny’s Child songs. Taking us from church music, to soul music, to club and pop music and me singing to the top of my lungs to number one hits since the 90’s.

This tour would be so lit! 🔥

Check out the article below from MadameNoire for a deeper look inside the story.

Tell me you’re excited as I am!!!


Are all of our 90s/early 2000s dreams about to come true? Is there a Destiny’s Child reunion in the works? Sources told The Sun that Beyoncé is looking to bring the iconic girl band back together for a 20th anniversary reunion tour. 285 more words

via Rumor Has It Destiny’s Child Is Planning A 20th Anniversary Reunion Tour, And We Are Saying Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes — MadameNoire

This is America

A while back I made a statement on one of my social media accounts stating to be aware of those people who are “Pro-Fetus but Anti-child.”

This particular quote comes from Bakari Sellers, an African-American attorney, political commentator, and politician.

First, let’s be really clear here. I’m neither pro-life or pro-choice. This is a hard fence to straddle because what it all boils down to is what a woman decides to do with her body and what’s inside of her. Women have abortions for many different reasons and quite frankly I don’t think that white males (or any male) should be telling women what they should or should not be doing with their bodies. But these particular people like to be in control so therefore they like to put laws into place that will somehow stroke their little egos. Continue reading


Michelle Obama.  Some would say, former First Lady of the United States, but I consider her to still be my First Lady.  Her book Becoming, a memoir which was published in November of 2018 soared past record sales for the year within 15 days.

I chose to purchase the audio version of the book, just because I could listen to the book while at work and therefore killing two birds with one stone.  The book was broken down into three sections; Becoming Me, Becoming Us, and Becoming More.  Listening to Mrs. Obama as she carefully read each word with grace and dignity gave me a much deeper appreciation for her as person and a much clearer view into her life as a daughter, sister, mother, friend, wife, as well as a humanitarian.  Her personal reflections are mesmerizing as she tells her truth as only she could tell it. Continue reading

Watch out for the Big Girls!

Gone are the days where plus size or curvy girls can only shop at certain stores in the mall because those select stores are the only stores that sell “our” size.  It is a great feeling to finally have some of the barriers around plus size clothing knocked down.  Nowadays, more and more stores are providing curvy girl selections, whether in store (and not in the back of the store) or online.  We just have to get out there to shop and we have to be adventurous.  No one said that just because you’re a certain size that you can only wear sweatsuits or long granny dresses.  No, No, No! Continue reading

There’s a meeting in my Bedroom!

Warning:  This post is for Adults only! 

Ladies!!  Ladies!!  Ladies!!  Ladies!!

Are you having enough sex?  Are you pleasing your man?  Are you keeping it spicy and juicy as well as fresh in the bedroom?  Yup, that’s the conversation we’re having today.

Let me tell you….sex is necessary.  You can’t keep doing the same old thing day in and day out.  You have to spice it up.  Start that fire and let your man add to it and then put the flame out, okay!  Tell your man he has a fire he needs to put out and that you’re in need of the Vitamin D!

Sometimes you have to show up at the front door with something sexy on and a cute pair of heels; catch him off guard, those are always the best moments.  Sometimes you may need to make arrangements for the kids to stay at grandma’s house.  Or perhaps if you’re like me with teenagers in the house–you go in your room, shut and lock the door and turn the TV or music up.  Honey, you have to get it in where you can.

We all have long days at work and sometimes away from our significant others for hours throughout the day.  Do you ever text your man something sexy or send an emoji to let him know it’s going to be on tonight?

Emoji references:

🍆 = penis

🍑 = booty

👅 = lick

💋 = kisses

😘 = kisses

There are times when you may want to make love, then there are times when you just need a quickie, or you may need a little action at 3AM and then roll back over to go to sleep.  Shoot, there may be times when you just want to be nasty and do nasty things and that is okay too!

It’s funny, because I’ve always been a daddy’s girl.  However, I’ve never discussed anything remotely close to sex with my father.  At 16 years old he gave me a promise ring and told me to sustain from having sex before marriage.  Well of course that didn’t happen but my dad never really said much about it.  My father is also an ordained minister and when I got married he married my husband and I.  But before we were married we had “counseling” sessions with my father because of course, that’s what black people do before marriage.  While talking with my father he tells me to make sure I’m keeping my husband satisfied in the bedroom and having lots of sex.  Because it’s important in a marriage and because sex matters a whole lot to men.  I was taken aback when I heard that come out of my dads mouth.  I was his little girl or at least I wanted to think I was.  But in fact I was a full-grown adult about to be married and he was telling me to be sure my man was happy in the bedroom.   I figured if my daddy was telling me this then there must be some truth to it!

I believe that I’m currently in my prime years.  The years between 30-40, the time when we really need to be getting it in.  Because from what I hear once that menopause hit–there may be some drought happening and we really don’t have time for no dry desert situations.  So while we are still in our prime, the next time you and your man decide to get it on, be sure that you’re giving him all of you.  Be like Missy Elliot and sing to yourself, “P****Y don’t fail me now!”  Order some sexy lingerie.  Decide to try something different.  Make you a sexy music playlist and have it on hand for when you need it most.  Don’t forget to grab your oils and toys for the bedroom too.

Grant it, there are days when we as ladies just can’t seem to get the strength to go to the bathroom, let alone, to have sex.  Just like with finances, or dealing with the kids, or personal issues, communication is important when it comes to sex.  Don’t be afraid to have those sexual conversations with your partner.  That way both parties are being pleased on a consistent basis.  Because ladies, it’s just as important that you are being pleased too!

The D Challenge

I go hound for the D

Pound for pound for the D

I jump up & down, then on the ground for the D

Don’t mess around with the D

I take my time with the D

Anytime, yes indeed

I freshened up for the D

Baked a cake for the D, cuz I’m about to put him to sleep

I put the turtleneck on the D

But I’m careful with the teeth

My dude is like Drake, he’s back to back for the P!

– Itoja

If you’re not married and having sex please be sure you are having safe sex. 

Got comments? Leave them below! 

Keep it Spicy,


Protecting our Daughters!

I remember growing up and often feeling like my sister and I really couldn’t do as much as our friends or cousins did.  There were times when we would beg and plead to stay over someone’s house and the answer was always, NO!  Eventually we got use to the word NO and stop asking to stay places or to even go certain places.  My mother always stated that our friends could come visit us and that was it.  I really didn’t understand why at the time but that was our life.

Just so we are clear, I come from a two parent home, but whatever momma said is what the final rule was.  If we ever tried to out talk my mother all she had to do was say my daddy’s name and my dad would give us a look, as if to say, you heard what your momma said! LOL

Now that I’m older, I understand my mother’s logic quite well and I’m actually very thankful that such guidelines were in place.  I now know that my mother was protecting me from being exposed to potential situations I had no business being in at such a young age.  I also realize that my parents only wanted what was best for my sister and me.

What it boils down to is, a person doesn’t know what goes on at another person’s house behind closed doors.  Not saying that everyone is doing bad things but you just don’t know.  Another parent might have rules that are totally different from what are currently in place at your house.  It’s better to not have a child placed in an environment that could be totally foreign to them.

All of this came to mind after I was watching the “Surviving R. Kelly” docuseries that recently aired on Lifetime.  In case you didn’t watch the series, this man has preyed on younger girls for most of his music career causing mental, physical, and sexual abuse to young girls and women as they told their personal stories.  The docuseries highlighted his actions from a young child all the way up to today–where it is said that he had a sex cult.  I watched the show with my daughter as it was very hard to do so, but being that I too, have a 14 year old child, I felt it was necessary and important.

I remember listening to him in heavy rotation as a teenager, not really knowing or putting two and two together.  Now when I think about some of the songs that he made they seem to all be centered on him targeting young naïve children.  Songs like Bump & Grind, and the lyrics stating “His mind is telling him no…but his body is telling him yes!”  Imagine him, as a 28 year old man singing this to a 14  year old girl.

What’s even more disgusting are the parents who act like they couldn’t do anything to protect their children.  I remember listening to the show and this one couple stating that their child who was 14 at the time, threatened them if they didn’t let her go away with R. Kelly.


Are you kidding me?

Who’s the parent and who’s the adult in this situation?

I wish my daughter would come to me and tell me she’s running off with some guy and if I don’t let her she’s going to threaten me.  Honey, you better send all your threats then because my number one mission and goal is to always protect my child whether she likes it or not.  I hate to see parents not protecting their children and just letting them do whatever they want.  It’s time for us to take back the parent role in our households.  I tell my daughter all the time, you will thank me when you get older and that’s that.

I also believe that it is our responsibility to not only protect our daughters but to also have the best interest of other children that may cross our paths at heart.  During this R. Kelly docuseries so many people were helping and assisting him with getting way with being a predator and no one ever stood up for these young girls.  No one came to their rescue.  No one had enough balls to tell R. Kelly NO!  They were all smitten by his fame and celebrity lifestyle that they allowed a grown man to take advantage of innocent girls.

So the current question floating around social media is can you separate the artist from art?  I believe in this instance, there is no way to separate the two.  Time after time he wrote and sung songs that were centered on having sex with young girls and WE as a culture have ignored every single solitary sign that has come across our TV’s and radio. It’s time that we do better.  We can start by not listening to his music!

I want to publicly ask my generation to stop listening to R. Kelly’s music as protecting our daughters should be more important than listening to his music.  How about we not give him wings so that he can fly any more.  How about we step in the name of love and protect our daughters.   Lets also teach our daughters the importance of self worth and self love.  That no man should ever be able to take their power or voice away from them.



Checking In

Hey Friends,

I know this is an impromptu post, but I wanted to check-in to see how each of you were doing.  Strong friends need to be checked on from time to time as well.

Life is currently kicking my butt.  On my big girl job, we switched to a new system and it’s a lot slower than what we had before; leaving us 24K accounts behind. We’ve been on mandatory overtime for over a month now and although the money is good, I’m feeling every bit of it.  Lets not forget that I also have a part-time job and a family to tend to.  Ugh!

I’m also not feeling my best physically.  I haven’t been able to workout in over a month.  That is not good.  As a curvy girl, working-out is a necessity.  I may be thick but I need to make sure everything stays in the proper place.  And no, I have not been eating all my veggies.  So I’m trying to at least stay on top of my water.  I need to go to Urgent Care too because my sinuses are not giving up.

I’m adulting big time these days but it’ll all pay off later, I’m sure.  What’s that motto?  Work Hard; Play Hard or Work Now; Play Later?  Whatever it is, that’s what I’m living by at the moment!

So that’s just a quick update on me.  If you’re out here adulting like myself, hang in there.  There’s light at the end of the tunnel and remember you are not alone.

What’s been going on in your life?  Check in and please share.