Drop it like it’s HOT

Over the past 10 years or so, I’ve tried just about every type of workout class one can think of, including pole dancing!!  Now, before you begin to judge, don’t knock it before you try it.

I know most people associate pole dancing with erotica and yes, I can certainly understand why.  But, there are studios that offer pole dancing workouts that are intended to be a part of your everyday fitness routine.

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My mission for 2019

The year of 2018 was very busy for me.  I planned a wedding for most of the year while work had me consumed more than I would like to admit.  If I’m totally honest with you, the hectic year took me away from taking care of myself the way that I should.  I should have been losing weight for a wedding and I was instead gaining.  Let’s not talk about all the coins I spent throughout the year as well.

The year of 2018 left my wallet empty and it also left me carrying around more weight around my midsection and face than I really want to confess to.

Almost 9 years ago, I made a conscious decision to lose weight and slowly the weight melted off of me.  I looked like a completely different person the following year and I swore I would never gain weight again.  Well now, most of that weight has found its way back to me after years of not being as mindful of things I consumed and lack of exercise.  So, guess what time it is?  It’s time to start this journey all over again.

So, I’m doing this with no regrets.  I’m leaving all the stress of 2018 in 2018 and I am putting ME and my wallet first!  I am devoting 2019 to losing weight and to building all my accounts back up!  Yes, all of them!  I also realize that my life is totally different from what it was 9 years ago so it may not be as easy and I may not even get to the size I once wore, but I’m willing to put in all of the work, plus more!

How will I put myself first?

I will make time for my workouts.  I realize that exercise is very important when it comes to losing weight as well as maintaining your weight.  That means I may have to cut hours at my part-time job because it is just that important.  Or, perhaps I would depend on the hubby or teenage kids to plan a simple meal while momma gets her exercise on.

I must also cut back on sugars and carbs and maximize my fiber and vegetable intake.  I’ve done it before, I can do it again.  All it takes is willpower and the art of consistency.  Basically, I need for my waist to get smaller and my wallet to get fatter and not the reverse.

I can also make easy and smart decision by grabbing a protein shake as a meal replacement or even taking an extra walk in the evenings.

But please, feel free to check-up on ya girl from time to time to see how I’m doing because the carbs be calling my name like I’m a soldier at war.

Anyone else need to rededicate themselves to putting yourself (or your wallet) first?  Let’s do it!  Take a moment to process your 2018 and make small changes here and there in efforts to continue cultivating yourself into the best YOU there is!

We can do it!




Throughout the years I’ve learned that you have to be really careful about listening to your inner voice.  You have to learn how to separate the good voice from the bad voice.  It’s like the scene you see in movies where there’s an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other.  To me, it is very important to learn how to not take things personally especially what people may say about you.  Many times they “the people” mean no harm.  But if you are not careful or if you keep replaying what’s been said to you over and over again, it can damage your self-esteem leaving you with no self love.


I can go all the way back to when I was a little girl. I’ve been a “Pretty Plus”, “Chunky”, “Cute to be a big girl”, “Plus Size”, and now they call it “Curvy” girl basically all my life.  I was these adjectives plus more in the eyes of those I considered to be family, friends, and sometimes strangers out in public.  I was told this constantly.  So this is what I believed.  It ran through me like the blood runs through my veins today.

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