Question of The Day – The Measure of Life

I wanted to do something different than my typical Saturday post.  Therefore, this Saturday, I want to present to you all a question of the day!

Today’s question is:

How should we measure life?  Should it be by achievements?  Memories?  Years?  Or something else?

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Dos and Don’ts (July Edition)

I cannot believe it’s July!  Kids are in full summer mode and vacations are happening every week.  The days are longer and it’s hot.  Time flies when you’re having fun and with that being said, that brings us to our “Dos and Don’ts” for July.

Shana:  Give to give, not to receive… if you give a gift to someone give because you want to and not because you expect something in return.

Toya:  Giving is better than receiving!  When you bless others you will be blessed in return.

S:  If you do something for someone, don’t hold it over their head.

T:  There is nothing worse than someone bringing up something they’ve done for you especially during an altercation.  Not cool.

S:  Try new things, they say taste buds change every 7 years and I think that could go for feelings and emotions also, something you may have hated years ago could become something you love now.

T:  I remember growing up I didn’t like grapefruit.  Now, I can eat it and find it very tasting.  So it’s true, taste buds do change.  Be brave and try something different or old in this case!

S:  Wash your towels in hot water, I promise it will make them feel brand new again!

T:  And throw like 4 washing pods in there!  That’s what I do.  HaHa.

S:  You remember that diary you kept as a kid, do it as an adult but call it a journal.  You don’t have to write every detail of your day, maybe just thoughts and ideas.

T:  Journaling is great especially for relieving stress.  I would even go a step further and say you don’t have to write in it every day.  But perhaps a few times a week when you need to debrief and get things off of your mind.

S:  I feel like no one really uses an actually camera anymore.  Everyone take pictures on their phone.  But you should still print pictures off and keep photo albums.  You need something to show your grandchildren one day; like your grandparents did you.

T:  I’ll let you in on a secret of mine.  I create photo albums from Shutterfly.com.  I’ve created vacation books filled with pictures from vacations.  I’ve also created random picture books.  My family created a memory book for my uncle who passed away.  There are truly a ton of options from baby books, wedding books, and many more.  Not only do they have a lot of options but the books are very easy to make.  It’s one of my favorite things!  Give it a try by clicking HERE to get a FREE 8×8 photo book!

S:  Check on your strong friend!!!!

T: Ditto!

S:  Not everything is about you and not everyone wants to constantly hear you talking about you.  Give others a chance to talk also.

T:  This is good advice.  Many people should take heed to this.

S:  I recently heard if you were over the age of thirty to not to wear eyeliner because it makes you look younger.  I’ve recently been doing this and really can’t see a difference. So wear what you want!

T:  Interesting.  Perhaps I’ll try one eye and see if I can tell a difference. LOL

S:  Build your friends up, don’t tear them down by always trying to “one up” them.  Friendship isn’t a competition.

T:  Friends shouldn’t be jealous of other friends.  If they are, they’re not a true friend.

S:  You can do anything you put your mind to!

T:  ABSOLUTELY!

S:  Don’t change for someone else, change for you.

T:  Shana is preaching this month!  Just imagine me clapping my hands right now saying, YAAAASSSSS!!!!!!

S:  Keep your pocketbook organized, you will feel better about your life.

T:  I heard once, that if your purse is junky that means you have a man and don’t have time to clean it out! Haha.  But in all seriousness, you’ll function better with an organized and clean pocketbook or purse but for me, it only stays like that for two days max.  So then it’ll be a mess for about a week or two until I get around to doing it again or until I switch my purse.

Thanks for reading our monthly Dos and Don’ts.  We really appreciate it.  Check out prior publications HERE!  Let us know what you think in the comments below.  Here are some fun questions for you.

Just out of curiosity:

Do you say pocketbook or purse?  

Do you sprinkle salt on your watermelon?                                                  

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Shana lives in VA with her husband and daughter.

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Q&A: Are you addicted to Labels?

Q:  I think I’m addicted to designer labels.  From Ferragamo, to Chanel, Tom Ford, Burberry, and Gucci; to name a few.  I did manage to go 62 days without shopping or buying clothes, but I recently messed up.  My girlfriend said she thinks my addiction stems from not having any kids and that’s how I supplement my void.  What do you think?

A:  If whatever you’re buying is within your means and you can afford it and you’re not using bill money or maxing out credit cards; I don’t see that as being addicted to shopping.  You’re not going through extreme measures that will cause significant consequences in order to supply your habit.  You may just love to shop and really love the finer things in life; such as designer labels.  Many of us enjoy the attention we get from wearing designer labels, which I don’t think anything is really wrong with that.  Many of us enjoy dwelling in luxury and being fashion-forward.  The saying, “you get what you pay for”, is really true.  On the flip side, I do believe that there are moments when shopping provides retail therapy and the thought or idea of buying something new is an instant spirit booster.  Perhaps, if this is happening more than usual, you may want to identify the reason(s) why you’re requiring so much “retail” therapy and address the root of that situation.  But just normal shopping, whether designer or not, I don’t think you have any worries..

Can anyone else provide some insight for this dear reader?  Do you think you’re addicted to shopping or buying designer labels?

If you have a question you would like to submit for feedback please email them to toja@itoja.com or inbox me on social media.

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Did you learn ANYTHING this year?

It’s the last day of the year and I don’t particularly care for resolutions.  They never last and to me it’s always geared towards the negative aspects of your life that you would like to make better.

To do something a little different, answer this question:

The most valuable lesson I’ve learned in 2017 was__________________________________?

Lets use what we have learned this year as a driving force to carry us into 2018 and beyond!

Finally, I pray you all have a blessed and prosperous New Year!   (Pops Champagne)

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Think About This!

How can someone tell you, that something about you, isn’t of God?  If it is something dealing with me, I do believe that God would tell me specifically instead of telling you.  I do have a relationship with Him!

When people are unhappy with themselves they will try to bring you down with them.  DON’T LET THEM!

Thoughts??????

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QOD- Question of the Day

What is your greatest Fear?

For me, my greatest fear is not being successful.  In order to reverse my fear, I try to take more risk, allowing myself room for failure by not being so hard on myself.  Deep down, I know it’s best to have tried and failed then to not have tried at all.

Let’s talk!

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