2019 Music Festivals

Music Festivals take place all around the Country typically during the Spring and Summer months.  Some really are extreme while others are quite laid back.  Typically, these festivals take place over a weekend; which allows you to not only enjoy the musical acts and daytime activities but also a chance to explore the city and take part in some cultural activities as well.

If you’ve been thinking about a weekend getaway, here’s the perfect time to do it,  especially if you enjoy music.  My suggestion would be to do a little research.  Go to the festival that’s affordable for you and also the one where there are more musical acts that you would enjoy.  Don’t delay, some of these festivals are around the corner (Links below)!

Coachella– This festival takes place in California over two different weekends in April.  April 12-14 and April 19-21.  There are tons of options available to you so that you can really make the festival your own.  There’s also a wide range of musical guest for this festival.

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Something in the Water– If you’re looking for a festival near the beach, this festival is the one for you.  This event will take place in Virginia Beach, VA, April 26-28.  The oceanfront and convention center will serve as venues.  It is said that there will be a pop-up church service and karaoke featuring trap music.

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Roots Picnic– This one day event takes center stage in Philly on June 1st.  Early bird tickets start at $69.50 which is very inexpensive compared to other festivals.  However, keep in mind that this is a one day event while others may be for an entire weekend.

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Essence– New Orleans is always the place to be and this is where this festival takes place.  I personally attended this festival in 2014 during their 20th Anniversary.  The icon Prince was the headliner.  We attended concerts 3 nights in a row.  We also enjoyed the free day parties, saw a ton of celebrities, and did some sightseeing on our own. This festival is from July 4-7.

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These are just a few of the festivals that I’m aware of and the ones that are most trusted.  If it looks too good to be true, like that FYRE festival.  Run!  Did you see those documentaries?  OMG!

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Protecting our Daughters!

I remember growing up and often feeling like my sister and I really couldn’t do as much as our friends or cousins did.  There were times when we would beg and plead to stay over someone’s house and the answer was always, NO!  Eventually we got use to the word NO and stop asking to stay places or to even go certain places.  My mother always stated that our friends could come visit us and that was it.  I really didn’t understand why at the time but that was our life.

Just so we are clear, I come from a two parent home, but whatever momma said is what the final rule was.  If we ever tried to out talk my mother all she had to do was say my daddy’s name and my dad would give us a look, as if to say, you heard what your momma said! LOL

Now that I’m older, I understand my mother’s logic quite well and I’m actually very thankful that such guidelines were in place.  I now know that my mother was protecting me from being exposed to potential situations I had no business being in at such a young age.  I also realize that my parents only wanted what was best for my sister and me.

What it boils down to is, a person doesn’t know what goes on at another person’s house behind closed doors.  Not saying that everyone is doing bad things but you just don’t know.  Another parent might have rules that are totally different from what are currently in place at your house.  It’s better to not have a child placed in an environment that could be totally foreign to them.

All of this came to mind after I was watching the “Surviving R. Kelly” docuseries that recently aired on Lifetime.  In case you didn’t watch the series, this man has preyed on younger girls for most of his music career causing mental, physical, and sexual abuse to young girls and women as they told their personal stories.  The docuseries highlighted his actions from a young child all the way up to today–where it is said that he had a sex cult.  I watched the show with my daughter as it was very hard to do so, but being that I too, have a 14 year old child, I felt it was necessary and important.

I remember listening to him in heavy rotation as a teenager, not really knowing or putting two and two together.  Now when I think about some of the songs that he made they seem to all be centered on him targeting young naïve children.  Songs like Bump & Grind, and the lyrics stating “His mind is telling him no…but his body is telling him yes!”  Imagine him, as a 28 year old man singing this to a 14  year old girl.

What’s even more disgusting are the parents who act like they couldn’t do anything to protect their children.  I remember listening to the show and this one couple stating that their child who was 14 at the time, threatened them if they didn’t let her go away with R. Kelly.

Really!

Are you kidding me?

Who’s the parent and who’s the adult in this situation?

I wish my daughter would come to me and tell me she’s running off with some guy and if I don’t let her she’s going to threaten me.  Honey, you better send all your threats then because my number one mission and goal is to always protect my child whether she likes it or not.  I hate to see parents not protecting their children and just letting them do whatever they want.  It’s time for us to take back the parent role in our households.  I tell my daughter all the time, you will thank me when you get older and that’s that.

I also believe that it is our responsibility to not only protect our daughters but to also have the best interest of other children that may cross our paths at heart.  During this R. Kelly docuseries so many people were helping and assisting him with getting way with being a predator and no one ever stood up for these young girls.  No one came to their rescue.  No one had enough balls to tell R. Kelly NO!  They were all smitten by his fame and celebrity lifestyle that they allowed a grown man to take advantage of innocent girls.

So the current question floating around social media is can you separate the artist from art?  I believe in this instance, there is no way to separate the two.  Time after time he wrote and sung songs that were centered on having sex with young girls and WE as a culture have ignored every single solitary sign that has come across our TV’s and radio. It’s time that we do better.  We can start by not listening to his music!

I want to publicly ask my generation to stop listening to R. Kelly’s music as protecting our daughters should be more important than listening to his music.  How about we not give him wings so that he can fly any more.  How about we step in the name of love and protect our daughters.   Lets also teach our daughters the importance of self worth and self love.  That no man should ever be able to take their power or voice away from them.

LETS PROTECT OUR DAUGHTERS.  YOUNG BLACK GIRLS ARE IMPORTANT TOO!

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When I turned the rapper 50 Cent down….

The year was early 2003.  I was a junior/senior in college just minding my everyday “young at heart” business.  The rapper 50 Cent was a fairly new artist to the public mainstream.  He had a hit record that radio stations played constantly, as if the song was on automatic repeat.  Many of you may remember the song….

Go shorty, it’s your birthday

We gonna party like it’s your birthday

We gonna sip Barcardi like it’s your birthday

Of course you remember the song!  It was one of Billboards 100 Best Songs of the 2000s according to the Rolling Stone’s Magazine.

So you’re thinking, why or how did I turn 50 Cent down?  Well, according to sources 50 Cent was coming to Richmond, VA for a concert.  The promoter of said concert was a friend of a friend.  This particular friend had previously given me stories upon stories about this promoter guy.  She then came back to me at some point and stated that the rapper 50 Cent was coming into town and he needed a driver.  The promoter wanted to know if I could be the driver for 50 Cent?

My curiosity began to grow because I couldn’t understand how a breakout rapper with a number one song on the radio could come to town and not have transportation?  Or why the promoter would ask me to be the transportation for such a high-profile rapper.  I didn’t have a fancy car.  I didn’t work in the industry.  AND to add icing to the cake (pun intended) when I asked why he didn’t have his own transportation, I was told “he’s just getting started in the business.”  Nothing was adding up to me and it left me baffled.

Baffled because it was 50 Cent and also because I really didn’t trust this promoter guy.  None of the stories that I had previously heard about him supported me in saying yes to  this task.  I later asked if I could have a friend accompany me while transporting the star from the airport to the venue.  My suggestion was turned down.

This lead me to my ultimate decision of turning down 50 Cent.  My safety has always been my main concern and focus in life.  I take pride in being a very cautious person and able to listen to my intuition when needed.  I purposely choose to not take part in Russian Roulette type deals.

I’ll never know if I really had the chance to chauffeur 50 Cent around or not.  I often wonder, what if?  But at the end of the day, I have no regrets.  Besides, I can almost see it working more in today’s time with the whole “Uber” transportation phenomenon going on right now.  But then I would have to work for such companies, and I don’t…….and this puts us back at square one!

Perhaps, you may have a “what-if” moment as well?  If that’s the case, feel free to share your stories in the comment section below.  But also take pride in knowing that if it was meant to be–it would have happened.

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“Would it be ok if your spouse went on vacation with their ex?”

Recently, in mainstream media, most of you have heard about Jada Pinkett-Smith discussing her relationship with her husband, Will Smith; along with conversations around her children, her Bonus child, and his mother.  If you are like me, you may even tune in occasionally to her Red Table Talk show that airs on Facebook Live.

Let me be the first to say that I commend Jada for her candid conversations around marriage, kids, life, and blended families.  They are definitely needed and most often they are also very eye-opening.

With that being said, I wanted to take a moment to briefly talk about a recent interview that Jada did on Sway In the Morning radio show.  She stated that because Will had a child prior to their marriage that she allows/is okay with Will, Trey (Will’s son by another woman) and Trey’s mother going on vacation together.  Social media went into a frenzy with views all over the spectrum.  Many people stating that they weren’t that mature to allow such thing to happen.

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I want to be clear and upfront to my readers and to those who may be around my age–late 30’s–and say this has nothing to do with maturity.  It really has nothing to do with trust. Do not feel bad or feel like you need to get on their level.  A person’s opinion is their opinion, and mine is certainly mine,  but do not feel like you need to get in line with this couple.

People have to learn to take their marriage seriously and you shouldn’t invite additional people into your union.  Where is the respect for the spouse?  If you open a window eventually something will fly in.  I am all for blending families.  I recently posted about how to Embrace your Blended Family just this past Fathers Day.  Click HERE to read more about it!

But telling my husband to go on vacation with your child who is in his 20’s (or any age for that matter) along with his mother so that he can get the dynamics of both mother and father is uncalled for.  Why would you even put that spirit out there?

I’m happy to go on a day trip with everyone to an amusement park.  I will love for us to all be together at graduations and birthdays.  But a vacation where you’re going to be acting like a married couple?  Miss me with that one!!  I think you should have a relationship with the child’s mother/father but a vacation–not so much.

I wonder if Will would allow Jada to do the same thing if she had a child with another man prior to them?  I highly doubt it!!

Keep blending your families but know you MUST draw the line somewhere!  Whether you agree or disagree with me, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below.

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