Beach Living

Imagine yourself tucked away on what seems like an remote island.  Bumper to Bumper action as packed cars travel to their designations for the week.  Children are hanging out of the car windows anxiously waiting to ride bikes and stay up extra late.  It’s the middle of Summer and during the day the sun is blazing.  There’s no way to escape the humid temperatures and even after the sun has set along the coast of the beach the heat still remains.  The night stars that hang in the sky are magical and finally you can let your windows down to enjoy the fresh air as you cruise along the shore. This is a place you wish you could stay forever.

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This is America

A while back I made a statement on one of my social media accounts stating to be aware of those people who are “Pro-Fetus but Anti-child.”

This particular quote comes from Bakari Sellers, an African-American attorney, political commentator, and politician.

First, let’s be really clear here. I’m neither pro-life or pro-choice. This is a hard fence to straddle because what it all boils down to is what a woman decides to do with her body and what’s inside of her. Women have abortions for many different reasons and quite frankly I don’t think that white males (or any male) should be telling women what they should or should not be doing with their bodies. But these particular people like to be in control so therefore they like to put laws into place that will somehow stroke their little egos. Continue reading

The ABC Car Game

For most families, family vacation takes place during the Summer and it’s that time of the year again.

But before you pack up the car and load everyone in, and even before you stop to get gas and snacks, I want to you teach you all a fun game to play that will provide entertainment and fun while you’re going from one destination to another..

My family calls this game, The ABC Game.  My dad taught this to my sister and I when we were little girls and we’ve been playing it ever since.  I’m not even sure if it’s a real game or not.  I just know it’s something that was always fun for us and we’ve since taught it to our children. Continue reading

How to get a free U.S. Passport!

It’s the beginning of July and I’ve been officially married for 10 months!  Marriage itself has been a blast and I’ll be sharing more about our first year of marriage as we get closer to our anniversary date; but one of my main struggles thus far has been getting my name changed!!!

Ugh! It not only takes forever, but each place or account have different requirements when it comes to changing a name.  Unless you have to get your name changed, you fail to realize how many businesses you are affiliated with.

Most couples plan an extravagant honeymoon traveling to a tropical island or a country outside of the United States that requires a U.S. passport.  For us, we did a Carnival Cruise to Cuba (click HERE for that blog) that required passports.

I had a previous passport prior to traveling to Cuba but it had expired and I had no choice but to get a new one.  I took care of all of that around the middle of June last year.

After marriage I had copies of our marriage certificate made.  I finally got my license renewed and my name changed, however, I was curious to know if I could use my new license and my old passport together.  After Googling I found out that the name on your license had to match the name on your passport – SHUCKS.

I knew I definitely wanted a new U.S. passport; they last 10 years and it makes traveling so much easier.  But I didn’t want to spend 120 more dollars getting my name changed again after only having it for less than a year.

[Puts on thinking cap]

After doing a little investigation on the passport site, I found out that if your name has changed less than one year after U.S. passport was issued AND your U.S. passport is less than one year old you can have your name changed on your passport for FREE!!!!!

So this is for all of the newly married ladies out there.  Take advantage of this NOW!

I almost missed my deadline because my U.S. passport was issued on 6/30/18.  By the time I figured this out it was already the beginning of June 2019.  I had to move really fast.

Let me just tell you that if I had missed this deadline I would have been HOT.  Like on fire HOT.  Oh man, I would have been so pissed.

But thankfully I got everything (name change application, most recent U.S. Passport, a color photo, and marriage license) sent to them on time.

ps: Whenever you’re mailing off U.S. Passport documentations be sure to send it off via Certified Mail. Sending your items off via Certified Mail allows your package to be tracked and it’s also insured.

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5 Tips for Raising Teenagers

Where do I start?  Raising a teenager in this day and time is not easy whatsoever.  In fact, raising a teenager, period, is not easy, but especially now, it’s so much harder.  The same can be said for being a teenager—it is hard for them as well.  They are in that awkward period of their lives where they’re technically still a child but now older with more responsibilities and slightly a little more freedom.  They’re at a crossroads between doing what they know is right and wanting to fit in with “cool” kids.  They’re trying to figure out who they are but at the same time they are “know it alls” and refuse to listen to anyone over the age of 25.

I believe the hardest years for parents and child are the teenage years.  It’s one of those iron sharpens iron situations.  It’s a constant battle that both parent and child have to work on.

I remember growing up and the pressure from social media or reality TV was not present.  Back in those days, you worried about your parents letting your friend stay over, trying to record songs from the radio onto your cassette tape, and what was going on at school.  These days, kids are worried about the latest technology, the G-Wagon they saw a celebrity’s child driving on their Instagram feed, and so much more. Continue reading

Are you willing to get uncomfortable?

Late last year at my full time job, I was asked if I wanted to train a class of 7 people for about a week.  I would only be training them on a few of the forms we processed, these forms being some of the easier forms, therefore it would be a very easy class to train.

I was asked to train because the actual trainer was out sick and they needed someone to get the job done fast.  Everyone pointed to me.  I stood there in shock like a deer in headlights because I had never trained a class before.  I’m also one of the employees who has been there a shorter amount of time than the others.  I wondered why they would choose me out of everyone else that worked in the department.  The more I sat there and questioned my ability to train an actual class the more everyone kept saying I would be the perfect fit.

I finally agreed to take on the huge task but I was really nervous.  In case you didn’t know, I’ve always been more of a behind the scene person.  Getting in front of a class teaching them was totally out of my comfort zone.  To be honest, I was uncomfortable!  My voice was shaky.  I had so many “what-ifs.”  But I wanted to take on the challenge because I saw this as possibly being a great opportunity.

By the end of the week, I was starting to get into my groove and getting up in front of the class to teach was becoming easier and easier.  All I had to do was to begin to have confidence within myself.  img_7632So, when I was asked again to train 5 additional people this past May for an entire month on everything that we do and not just a few of the items we processed, this time I was very confident and was able to say yes, immediately.

See, there wasn’t a question of if I knew the material.  I was sure of that.  But for many years I was allowing my nerves to outshine my abilities.  I wasn’t willing to get uncomfortable BUT I have learn that growth only happens when we are uncomfortable and when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

I no longer ask “why me” but now I say, “why not me.”  At this point in my life I am willing to grow however necessary.  If it means I have to get uncomfortable then I’m willing to do just that especially if it will benefit me in the end.

Remember, if you’re willing to get uncomfortable, then you’re willing to grow.

If you’re recently had a growing moment, please share in the comments!

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