This is America

A while back I made a statement on one of my social media accounts stating to be aware of those people who are “Pro-Fetus but Anti-child.”

This particular quote comes from Bakari Sellers, an African-American attorney, political commentator, and politician.

First, let’s be really clear here. I’m neither pro-life or pro-choice. This is a hard fence to straddle because what it all boils down to is what a woman decides to do with her body and what’s inside of her. Women have abortions for many different reasons and quite frankly I don’t think that white males (or any male) should be telling women what they should or should not be doing with their bodies. But these particular people like to be in control so therefore they like to put laws into place that will somehow stroke their little egos. Continue reading

The Ten Commandments of The Black Church

Growing up in a black church, lets just say it was an experience!  Therefore, I’ve created the Ten Commandments of the Black Church.  These will help you if you’re ever visiting a black church and believe me, they will apply to you at some point in the service…….(study to show thyself approved).

1. Thou shall put up one finger and tiptoe out of service if you’re leaving early.

2. Thou shall bring a snack. Continue reading

The Nitty-Gritty of being an Entrepreneur

Over the past year, I’ve highlighted several different entrepreneurs on the blog.  There is a special admiration that I have for anyone who’s had a vision, written the vision, and has made a blueprint of how they wish to carry out their dreams.  I truly admire those people.

What I do not admire is how people like to try to force entrepreneurship onto others. Honestly, nothing bothers me more than hearing someone say work for yourself and not for someone else. Reason being? It doesn’t work that way for everyone.  Continue reading

2019 Music Festivals

Music Festivals take place all around the Country typically during the Spring and Summer months.  Some really are extreme while others are quite laid back.  Typically, these festivals take place over a weekend; which allows you to not only enjoy the musical acts and daytime activities but also a chance to explore the city and take part in some cultural activities as well.

If you’ve been thinking about a weekend getaway, here’s the perfect time to do it,  especially if you enjoy music.  My suggestion would be to do a little research.  Go to the festival that’s affordable for you and also the one where there are more musical acts that you would enjoy.  Don’t delay, some of these festivals are around the corner (Links below)!

Coachella– This festival takes place in California over two different weekends in April.  April 12-14 and April 19-21.  There are tons of options available to you so that you can really make the festival your own.  There’s also a wide range of musical guest for this festival.

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Something in the Water– If you’re looking for a festival near the beach, this festival is the one for you.  This event will take place in Virginia Beach, VA, April 26-28.  The oceanfront and convention center will serve as venues.  It is said that there will be a pop-up church service and karaoke featuring trap music.

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Roots Picnic– This one day event takes center stage in Philly on June 1st.  Early bird tickets start at $69.50 which is very inexpensive compared to other festivals.  However, keep in mind that this is a one day event while others may be for an entire weekend.

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Essence– New Orleans is always the place to be and this is where this festival takes place.  I personally attended this festival in 2014 during their 20th Anniversary.  The icon Prince was the headliner.  We attended concerts 3 nights in a row.  We also enjoyed the free day parties, saw a ton of celebrities, and did some sightseeing on our own. This festival is from July 4-7.

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These are just a few of the festivals that I’m aware of and the ones that are most trusted.  If it looks too good to be true, like that FYRE festival.  Run!  Did you see those documentaries?  OMG!

Are you in need of some travel tips? Check out my latest travel blog HERE!

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Ear Hustle Podcast

I figured now would be the perfect time to tell you all about another Podcast that has become one of my favorites.

If you’re not familiar with the term Ear Hustle it simply means trying to listen in on someone else’s conversation.  So with this podcast they are giving us the opportunity to listen to inmates tell their stories on why they are in prison and about their every day life behind bars. Continue reading

Protecting our Daughters!

I remember growing up and often feeling like my sister and I really couldn’t do as much as our friends or cousins did.  There were times when we would beg and plead to stay over someone’s house and the answer was always, NO!  Eventually we got use to the word NO and stop asking to stay places or to even go certain places.  My mother always stated that our friends could come visit us and that was it.  I really didn’t understand why at the time but that was our life.

Just so we are clear, I come from a two parent home, but whatever momma said is what the final rule was.  If we ever tried to out talk my mother all she had to do was say my daddy’s name and my dad would give us a look, as if to say, you heard what your momma said! LOL

Now that I’m older, I understand my mother’s logic quite well and I’m actually very thankful that such guidelines were in place.  I now know that my mother was protecting me from being exposed to potential situations I had no business being in at such a young age.  I also realize that my parents only wanted what was best for my sister and me.

What it boils down to is, a person doesn’t know what goes on at another person’s house behind closed doors.  Not saying that everyone is doing bad things but you just don’t know.  Another parent might have rules that are totally different from what are currently in place at your house.  It’s better to not have a child placed in an environment that could be totally foreign to them.

All of this came to mind after I was watching the “Surviving R. Kelly” docuseries that recently aired on Lifetime.  In case you didn’t watch the series, this man has preyed on younger girls for most of his music career causing mental, physical, and sexual abuse to young girls and women as they told their personal stories.  The docuseries highlighted his actions from a young child all the way up to today–where it is said that he had a sex cult.  I watched the show with my daughter as it was very hard to do so, but being that I too, have a 14 year old child, I felt it was necessary and important.

I remember listening to him in heavy rotation as a teenager, not really knowing or putting two and two together.  Now when I think about some of the songs that he made they seem to all be centered on him targeting young naïve children.  Songs like Bump & Grind, and the lyrics stating “His mind is telling him no…but his body is telling him yes!”  Imagine him, as a 28 year old man singing this to a 14  year old girl.

What’s even more disgusting are the parents who act like they couldn’t do anything to protect their children.  I remember listening to the show and this one couple stating that their child who was 14 at the time, threatened them if they didn’t let her go away with R. Kelly.

Really!

Are you kidding me?

Who’s the parent and who’s the adult in this situation?

I wish my daughter would come to me and tell me she’s running off with some guy and if I don’t let her she’s going to threaten me.  Honey, you better send all your threats then because my number one mission and goal is to always protect my child whether she likes it or not.  I hate to see parents not protecting their children and just letting them do whatever they want.  It’s time for us to take back the parent role in our households.  I tell my daughter all the time, you will thank me when you get older and that’s that.

I also believe that it is our responsibility to not only protect our daughters but to also have the best interest of other children that may cross our paths at heart.  During this R. Kelly docuseries so many people were helping and assisting him with getting way with being a predator and no one ever stood up for these young girls.  No one came to their rescue.  No one had enough balls to tell R. Kelly NO!  They were all smitten by his fame and celebrity lifestyle that they allowed a grown man to take advantage of innocent girls.

So the current question floating around social media is can you separate the artist from art?  I believe in this instance, there is no way to separate the two.  Time after time he wrote and sung songs that were centered on having sex with young girls and WE as a culture have ignored every single solitary sign that has come across our TV’s and radio. It’s time that we do better.  We can start by not listening to his music!

I want to publicly ask my generation to stop listening to R. Kelly’s music as protecting our daughters should be more important than listening to his music.  How about we not give him wings so that he can fly any more.  How about we step in the name of love and protect our daughters.   Lets also teach our daughters the importance of self worth and self love.  That no man should ever be able to take their power or voice away from them.

LETS PROTECT OUR DAUGHTERS.  YOUNG BLACK GIRLS ARE IMPORTANT TOO!

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