Dos and Don’ts (Jan Edition)

I’m happy to be collaborating with a dear friend with a list of Dos and Don’ts.  Basically, these are suggestions that will help you “get yo life” on some sort of level, if not all.  Some may be serious, or personal, or funny, or just really random.  Each month she will send me her list of Dos and Don’ts and I’ll give my feedback to what she has suggested.

You may ask, why is this something that I should be interested in?  Well, first, we are a like in a lot of ways and we are different in a lot of ways but yet we are still good friends.  I’ve never believed that just because you have different views on a topic that you couldn’t be a persons friend.  It’s called respecting their point of view and vice versa.

Second, she’s white.  It can’t get any clearer than that.  But I know for sure that White people and Black people sometimes do things a little different, like white people will bask in the sun for hours….a black person, 30 minutes, at the most!  So this will be interesting to see each month.

Third, and finally, I believe it’s safe to say that she’s a Republican and I’m a Democrat.  But, like I said, that doesn’t really mean much and if we differ on a point a view then I hope it’s an area where we both can learn from or perhaps we can agree to disagree.

So, with all of that being said…..let’s get STARTED!!!!!

Shana:  Don’t get married on a Holiday.  If it goes wrong you have ruined that Holiday for the rest of your life.

Toya:  Umm…perhaps there is some truth in this but I’ve never been married before.  I’d say if you choose Valentine’s Day or Christmas you better know it will work!

S:   Don’t wear eyeliner on your bottom lashes, especially if you don’t know how to put it on.  DO wear mascara on your bottom lashes because it’ll make your eyes look smaller plus you don’t want to walk around looking like a raccoon from black eyeliner!

T:  I always wear eye liner on my bottom eyelid.  I wonder if she’s talking about me?? #SideEye

S:  If your heart or stomach tells you No, even if your mind says Yes….Don’t do it.  Trust your gut instinct because 9 times out of 10 it is right.  

T:  I completely agree with this.  Think long you think wrong.

S:  Do not trust everyone because everyone do not have your best interest at heart.  

T:  Another one I agree with.  Fool me once shame on you…fool me twice shame on me.  Don’t be naive.  In today’s world you can’t really trust anyone.  Plus, with social media, people are thirsty for their 5 minutes of fame.

S:  Speak your mind but be tactful, speak like a lady.  Don’t hurt people’s feelings intentionally.  Unless they hurt yours first then it’s fair game.

T:  I believe in killing people with kindness.  It really works.  Also, I am mature enough to be able to tell you how I feel without being rude or demeaning.  So I do agree with this statement.  Besides, I’m a Taurus and we are known for being like bulls and being mean but instead of me having to tear you down with words I can cut you out of my life and forget about you like it was nothing.  My cut off game is really strong.

S:  Always try to match your panties and bra.  If you can match them to your outfit that’s even better.  I promise it will put a little extra pep in your step.

T:  I believe in matching panties and bra’s although I don’t always do it.  I don’t stress over it.  But you should always wear nice underclothes because if something happens to you, like an accident, or maybe you’re trying on clothes and someone is helping you, etc. you want to be presentable.  

S:  Find a dish that you love and perfect it.  Everyone should have “their dish”–you know the one you go to when you ave a potluck or guest coming over.

T:  This is a great idea.  I’m not sure if I have “my dish” yet.  Does “Your favorite wine” count??

S:  Don’t be jealous.  It is such an ugly quality to have.  Be happy for what others have and enjoy what you have.

T:  I definitely agree with this.  Even if the grass appears greener on the other side, you can bet their water bill is higher too.  You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.  What they had to do to get what they have, etc.  No need to be jealous.  Besides it only makes you look bitter.

S:  Don’t spend a lot of money on a wedding, instead spend a lot on an amazing Honeymoon or a down payment on a house.  Something you can enjoy for many years.

T:  I agree with this 100%.  Although it’s hard to minimize when it comes to weddings.

S:  Buy better quality even if it’s more expensive.  Except for a house.  Don’t just try to keep up with the Jones’.

T:  So I’m guessing she’s referring to shoes or purses or things of that nature.  Which I do agree with.  People use to be like I can’t believe you paid $200 for a purse.  Yes, I did.  And I’ve been carrying it for years.  I can switch it out and come back to it and it’s still in tact.  Meanwhile, you’re buying a new purse every weekend from Wal-Mart!  –As far as the house, yea don’t try to live beyond your means.

So there you have it.  Our first edition of our Dos and Don’ts.


Shana lives in VA with her husband and daughter.

Which one resonates with you the most?  Or which one just seems utterly ridiculous to you?  Any and all feedback is welcomed.



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